Sunday, December 22, 2013

Remarks on Loving an adopted child From Oct. 2nd 2012

In response to multiple posts I have read on "love not being enough" or "if only love were enough" for adopted kids:

Love is patient. Love is kind. Love is not jealous or boastful. It is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 1 Corinthians 4-8

If you believe these things and truly LOVE your kid(s), the rest really will fall into place. Why?

    Because you will have the patience to answer the hard questions. You will be kind to those who don't understand your situation. You won't be jealous when the child(ren) want to contact their birth families or make hurtful statements about wishing they were with another family. You will not let pride get in the way. You will not dishonor the birth family. You will not be selfish or angry when the birth family requests contact. You will not keep tally when your child misbehaves or claim that your adopted child "owes you". You will protect your child, trust their judgement, hope for only the best for them, and persevere when they try to push you away. You will never fail them, no matter who predicts otherwise. And no matter who thinks they know what's best for your child, you will do what is truly best for them.

How, in this way, can love not be enough?